Posts Tagged ‘give thanks’

Father Knows Best

June 25, 2009

father-knows-bestEver watched the old 1950s sitcom? In 30 short minutes, Betty, Bud and Kathy’s little world could be turned upside down and, almost with the snap of a finger, restored to perfect order…just like that.

Unfortunately, real life isn’t always that simple. Some of our problems don’t have such easy solutions.

Life has a way of handing us disappointments just when we thought things were smooth sailing. Just last week, my own family faced such a disappointment. With one simple email, a life dream was put on hold…indefinitely.

Our faith in God’s goodness could crash. Our hope and joy and peace could collapse under the weight of our sudden and dramatic change in circumstances.

BUT… if God truly loves me with absolute, perfect and unconditional love, and He does; and if He wants only the very best for me, which He does, then I can trust Him to have something better in store for our family—even better than the simple dreams we have for ourselves.

Do I really trust my Heavenly Father to do what is best for me? Can I really be sure that He has my best at heart? Can the foundations of our relationship stand up under the strain of pain and disappointment? Does Father God really know best?

God Himself answers the question for us. Listen to what He says:

“My thoughts are completely different from yours,” says the Lord. “And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine. For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.” — Isaiah 55:8-9 (NLT)

So, how about it? Are you prepared to trust, to just sit back and rest in the promises that Father truly does know best?

 – Debbie Ong

 photo copyright: estates of Young and producer Eugene Rodney

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Giving Thanks: Having a Pollyanna Mentality

April 23, 2009
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Ever seen the Disney movie “Pollyanna”? It’s about a little girl, the daughter of missionaries, who is orphaned and goes to live with a wealthy maiden aunt.

Pollyanna seems to have the knack of seeing the bright side of everything. When her aunt, bitter and jaded by life’s disappointments, asks her why she’s always so glad, Pollyanna explains that her father taught her to make life’s disappointments into a game that she called the Glad Game. Whenever she felt sad or disappointed, Pollyanna would try to find something to be glad about. For example, when her family opened up a missionary barrel full of things sent to them by the church ladies missionary society, instead of a new doll or pretty dresses, Pollyanna found a child-sized pair of crutches. Instead of being disappointed at receiving nothing of any value to her, she decided to be glad that she didn’t need those crutches herself.

As Pollyanna’s lively cheerful spirit touches the lives of those around her, the entire community is transformed by the influence of this one small girl.

Pollyanna had the right idea. The Glad Game wasn’t original to her. The apostle Paul instructs believers in Ephesians 5:20 to be “… always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.” God wants us to live with a constant attitude of gratitude.

I can always tell when I’ve not been showing enough gratitude. It somehow comes out in the voices of my children. They seem to start whining for things they see and want. I hear the rumbles of discontentment as they bicker and quarrel and find fault with each other. They grumble as they do their chores. And, sometimes, I hear my own ugly ungrateful words spilling out of their little mouths. God seems to use my children to be a reflection to me of my own sinful attitudes and behaviors.

This ‘stinkin’ thinkin’’ of thanklessness is not a new problem. In fact, the Old Testament records time and time again how the people of Israel grumbled and complained against the Lord whenever things got tough. But look at the results! It took them forty years to make what should have been a journey of less than two weeks! An entire generation died out in the wilderness and missed the joys and blessings of the Promised Land.

glass-half-fullHow about you? Do you have a habit of seeing the glass half full or half empty? It’s so easy to become disillusioned with life with its daily challenges, trials and frustrations, and to begin grumbling, whining and complaining. Why don’t you do something today to begin to turn that stinkin’ thinkin’ into an attitude of gratitude?

• Get a notebook and begin to list your blessings, both big and small. Write each blessing on a separate line. Think of blessings from the past, present, and future. Keep the notebook handy, and add to it as often as you can. Use the notebook to remind you to be thankful when you catch yourself falling back into habits of stinkin’ thinkin’. Pray through your notebook to give thanks to God for all the blessings He has given you.

Rent the movie “Pollyanna” and watch it with your children. Teach them to play the Glad Game. Make it a family tradition that whenever you hear each other grumbling or complaining you remind each other to play the Glad Game.

Copy Ephesians 5:20 onto an index card and hang it on your bathroom mirror. Put another copy on the dashboard of your car. Carry another in your wallet. Memorize this verse and recite it aloud whenever you see one of these cards or whenever you need to remind yourself to be thankful.

Find a piece of art that reminds you to be thankful and hang it in a prominent place in your home. It may be a wood carving of Scripture that says ‘Give thanks’, a painting, a Norman Rockwell print, a poster, a photograph, a framed piece of counted cross stitch, or even a child’s drawing—anything! The art and its cost are not what’s important, but the fact that it reminds you to be grateful whenever you see it. Make this a family project so that its significance as a reminder to be thankful extends to every member of the family.

Having a Pollyanna mentality is not being out of touch with reality. Playing the Glad Game is not just looking at the world through rose-colored glasses. It is walking in obedience to God’s Word.

An attitude of gratitude is a habit that you can develop, but it takes practice. So, what are you waiting for? When that car cuts you off on the freeway, thank God that you didn’t have an accident. When your children keep you up at night and you lose sleep, thank God for blessing you with precious little ones. Start today to develop your thankful heart muscles. Practice a little bit every day. You’ll be glad you did!   –  Debbie Ong

Photo credit: Pollyanna copyright by Disney